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Musings of the Ignorant.

December 14, 2008

As you may notice I have had a bit of writers block lately and some technical difficulties all rolled up into one.  Long story, but now I am back on track.  One thing that has been on my mind is how you can get the same *interesting* adoption related questions from so many different sources.  Such as…Why would you adopt? and my personal fave which I have touched on previously…Can’t you have kids of “your own”?  Which can also be pharased when people who are to trying to be stealthy…Are you going to have biological kids?  First, my issues with question number one.  To those who ask the above question, I usually like to reply…why do you get pregnant?  Usually shuts them up….along with giving me a chuckle.  I don’t think people truly understand that adopting a child and birthing a child are truly the same thing–just different sorts of labor pains.  Then my other personal favorite as stated above is generally referring to infertility.  Some insanely heinous individuals who I have come in contact with assume that people only adopt because they are infertile, but, IMO, they are missing the big picture.  What if being infertile was the way that God is revealing to you what he wants for you in your life?  Unfortunately what we think we want and what He wants for you can be two separate things.  But once you see what He wants for you, you know without a doubt that you want it too.  Case in point, my moving situation.  I wanted to move to NYC or a similar metropolis when I was finished with graduation.  Obviously that did not work for me–I am on my way to the boonies.  But I am on my way with the love of my life and I TRULY believe that this is the right things for us.  While it may not be what I thought would happen, I feel that we are in the right place.  As I said previously, our plan was always to adopt.  Irregardless of our whatever our fertility situation may or may not be.  I was never sure about a biological child, but I was sure that we would adopt.  Don’t get me wrong, I have already put the above issues to rest and they only resurface ever now and again.  The initial jolt was sometime last summer when we started telling people and I was unprepared for their stupidity.  Now when I get those questions or comments, I just look at them and shake my head and think to myself…..at least I am not that narrow minded….. 🙂

3 Comments leave one →
  1. Laura & Andres permalink
    December 15, 2008 8:12 am

    Sounds like you have a good outlook. Its amazing how insensitive people can be…even when they have your interests at heart. I know for us, we had talked about doing this even before we got married, so when things were a little slow in the bio dept, we jumped right in to the adoption route. But we still got lots of questions. Now the questions are…Are you going to adopt again? So be prepared, they never end!

  2. mom permalink
    December 15, 2008 4:20 pm

    I can second that comment just ask your Grandmother. Love Ya MOM

  3. Anonymous permalink
    December 15, 2008 11:24 pm

    You go sister! I love it!

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